Teens & Relationships by Roger E. Hernandez

Author:Roger E. Hernandez
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: National Highlights Inc

Today, the Internet has become a place where teens can find answers to their questions or problems about love and romance. Although researching a problem anonymously on the computer can be less awkward for teens, it may also reduce the traditional advisory role of parents or other adults.

Sometimes, too, one partner simply stops liking the other. “I just broke up with my boyfriend,” an eighth grader wrote to teen advice syndicated columnist Lucie Walters. “He had asked me if I really liked him, and I responded that I didn’t know. I ended up breaking up with him. I felt guilty going out with him for no reason. I guess he’s kind of mad at me because he has liked me since the fourth grade.”

As this young girl’s feelings of guilt show, initiating the breakup is difficult. And when the other person does not want to let go, it can be harder. “I met this guy at school that seemed really nice and I thought it would be good to get to know him better,” one teen wrote to the website www.askheartbeat.com. “After spending some time around him I realized that I was not really that interested. He is nice and all, but he’s not for me. I politely told him that I was not interested in him and now I can’t seem to get rid of him!” The website’s teen romance advisors replied she needed to get tough: “Start by asking him if he understands what ‘not interested’ means. Correct his interpretation since he doesn’t seem to be clear. Then ask him what he thinks he is going to accomplish by calling you all the time when you aren’t interested in dating him. Tell him he needs to be calling someone that may be interested in seeing him romantically because you aren’t.”

Of course, that kind of tough talk is bound to be, well, tough on her former boyfriend. And so it goes—as hard as it is to be the one who breaks up with someone, it is harder still to be on the receiving end. Yet young people with broken hearts can take comfort, because there is truth in the cliché “time heals all wounds.” Many experts give practical advice on how to get over the end of a romantic relationship. Teenwire.com advises, “Do something physical like going on a long bike ride or a fast run. Many people find that being out in nature helps them get a handle on their emotions. When you start to feel better, reach out to people and find things to do. Join some new group, call three people every day, make plans for the weekend, take up running, read a book. Your days will go by much faster if you fill them with things you like to do. You’ll meet new people and you’ll spend less time thinking about your old relationship.”

Experts also say that even teens who are going steady should keep in mind that they are still young, because being in love at 16 does not guarantee the couple will be together happily ever after.

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